The Mysterious Habits of Normal Eaters


Many of my clients come to me feeling like they have wasted so much time and energy obsessing about food. They have spent years trying to lose weight.


They are sick of yo-yo dieting and want to figure out how to eat like a normal person. The problem is they are confused and don’t know how.


I get it. This was my story too. When I tried to stop dieting, I realized I didn’t know what to do. Dieting had given me a false sense of control even though I was actually very out of control. Half of the time I was on a diet, I was breaking my diet and bingeing.


I started dieting in middle school. I had been following my own crazy food rules for so long that I never had an adult experience as a “normal eater.” I didn’t even know what that meant. It wasn’t until I was in my mid-30s that I was able to figure it out.


After years of hearing similar stories from so many women, I know that eating like a “normal person” can seem like a mystery.


What do these mysterious “normal eaters” think and do? Here is what I learned:


▪ They eat when they are hungry.

▪ They don’t stress out about calories or points.

▪ They stop eating when they are satiated even if there is food on the plate.

▪ They eat food that gives them energy and makes them feel good. This is generally healthy food since healthy food gives you awesome energy.

▪ Sometimes they overeat but they don’t make it mean that they are “out of control” or “doomed to be fat forever.” They just move on.

▪ They don’t feel guilty about food or make it mean they were “good” or “bad.”

▪ They sit at the table when they eat. They put their food on a plate.

▪ They enjoy their food and pay attention to how it tastes rather than shoving it down and thinking about how they can sneak some cookies when no one is looking.

▪ They do not use food to fix a non-food issue. They recognize the difference between a physical and emotional hunger.

▪ They fully enjoy eating a piece of cake. They might stop after a few bites because the first few bites taste the best.


If you are reading this list and feeling like these things seem impossible, take a deep breathe. These are actually very learnable skills.


Don’t know where to start? Begin by noticing when you are truly hungry. What does hunger feel like in your body?


Next, work on figuring out what foods make you feel your best and taste great. You might need to do some experimenting to figure this out.


Taking these small, powerful steps helps to end the craziness around food. If you desire freedom from dieting and still want to lose weight, moving towards “normal eating” is your key.


I am here cheering you on! If you want extra support on your journey, please reach out.



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