It’s Not About the Bikini


I hope you had a super, fabulous summer.  I don’t know about you, but I always feel a mix of sadness and excitement when summer comes to an end.  I will miss the playful, spontaneous feeling that summer brings and I also enjoy creating new school time routines.


In the spirit of creating new routines, today I want to talk to you about something I find extremely important when it comes to our health goals. Knowing your personal “WHY.”


Although this is embarrassing to admit, when I was younger it was all about how I looked. I thought if I looked a certain way my life would be better. I would be happier, more confident, and look “hot” in a bikini.


I bought into the illusion that we are constantly presented with by the media. This led me to do all sorts of crazy things to reach my weight goals including starving myself, bingeing and purging, over-exercising, and chronic dieting. None of these things made me happy even when I was at my thinnest.


It makes a lot of sense to me now. I was using the wrong “WHY.” Focusing on how you look on the outside never brings us true health and happiness. Although most of us know this, we get bombarded by media images and “bikini body” articles all the time, which can make things very confusing.


Now that summer is officially coming to an end, if we use how we look in a bathing suit as a motivator, our desire to take care of our bodies loses its importance.


This is the same as when we use a high school reunion, wedding or other major event as the main motivator for losing weight. It becomes a very shallow goal with very little staying power.


How do you create your personal “WHY”? Start with answering these questions.


Why do you want to take care of your body?

Why do you want to reach a healthy weight?

How would your life be different if you reached your health goals?

Why is accomplishing your goal important to you?


With these questions in mind, I want to challenge you to go deeper then the surface. It doesn’t have to be complicated it just has to excite you.




Over the years my personal “WHY” has changed. My “why” is pretty simple.


My present day “Why”:


I want to feel good now.

I want to have energy everyday.

I want to be able to hike, play and explore nature.

I want to be a positive role model for my kids.

I want to be strong and healthy so I can continue to be active through my 80s and beyond.


I still want to feel good and look good in my clothes. I still like wearing bikinis. There is nothing wrong with this, however when we make it the most important “why” our daily commitment to ourselves can be put on the back burner.



For example, if you are face to face with your favorite pizza and your goal is to look good at a wedding 3 months from now, it is easy to go back to the “I will try again tomorrow approach.” However if your goal is to feel good now, stuffing down that 3rd slice is not so appealing.



Knowing your personal why keeps you committed to taking care of yourself. It also helps you recommit when you fall off track which we all do at times.


So what’s your “WHY”? Spend a few minutes on this. Don’t worry about getting it right. Whatever inspires you to make your self-care a priority is perfect.









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